Counter Views: February 2005

dis makes sense ... just hear him out ...

Multiplicity of Relationships --
>A polemical reply to Femina June 15, 04
>by Lama Shree Narayan Singh
>Human relationships are extremely complex. This is why it is
>unwise as also extremely dangerous to attempt to over simplify
>matters and state categorically in the June 15, 04 issue that
>polygamy is not the answer. Aristotlean logic of yes and no,
>light and dark, either or, do not apply to this realm; rather it
>is the Asian way of the simultaneous coexistence of paradoxes,
>both yes and no, right and wrong which is the more applicable.
>In one stroke of the pen Femina has succeeded in negating human
>experience and history spanning thousands of years. Every culture
>in the past has made allowances for the distinctive differences
>between men and women and has attempted to cater to their
>respective requirements. Our Indian culture has been no
>exception! In fact the concept of monogamy is totally foreign to
>the Indian psyche -- an import from latter day Christian
>ethics.
>Before we go any further, you do need to know of the origins of
>monogamy. It was institutionalised by Pope Gregory VI in the
>latter part of the eleventh century c. 1063 AD, to enable the
>church to keep track of children and their parentage. Prior to
>that the very concept of monogamy had been alien to Christendom.
>Subsequently even though the church tried its level best,
>throughout its history varying between creativity and turbulence,
>to enforce monogamy on its members, it has experienced merely
>varying degrees of success. In fact it was King Henry VIII of
>England who was excommunicated by the then Pope 1533 CE as he had
>wanted a divorce from his queen. This the Pope was not ready to
>give for various extra religious reasons of loyalty to the Holy
>Roman Emperor. It resulted in the creation of the Church of
>England! King Henry then went on to have married eight queens in
>succession with each former queen being imprisoned and later
>beheaded in the Tower of London.
>For the most part it has been found that people in Europe would
>be married and keep mistresses as well. Traditionally the
>Italians and the French have been renowned for their extra
>marital affairs which is accepted by society. They are also known
>for their skills in this regard. Jacques Chirac, former President
>of France made no bones about his love child, a beautiful
>daughter! The recently released book 'Sex with Kings: 500 Years
>of Adultery, Power, Rivalry and Revenge' by Eleanor Herman
>provides interesting historical insights into royal shenanigans
>in Europe. A fascinating book called the Decameron written by
>Boccacio is a medieval collection of a hundred stories of the
>sexual escapades of Italians, both the clergy and laity, which
>makes fascinating reading. In fact one Christian denomination,
>the Mormons in the US, actually advocates and practices polygamy.
>Sometimes its followers do fall foul of the law due to this.
>In India too girls and ladies, not to forget boys and eunuchs,
>were readily available for the exercise of royal prerogative as
>brides, courtesans, mistresses and lovers. The bottom line
>invariably was that the family always remained intact. A poignant
>statement in the movie Kama Sutra, 'You are the queen!' by the
>king's mother to her daughter in law in an attempt to console
>her, says it all, condoning his affair with an amazingly gifted
>courtesan. The last Nizam of Hyderabad had officially married
>nearly 550 queens; his late father 827! A century earlier,
>Maharaja Ranjit Singh, the Lion of Punjab, too had a predilection
>for ladies of varying ethnicity. Since beauty, grace and charm
>are to be found across all social strata, it stands to reason
>that most of these ladies would have been of plebeian origin.
>Many would have simply been elevated from the ranks of servants
>and slaves. Naturally each of them were unable to keep track of
>their children! The Nizam's descendants must number in
> thousands. Those of the Nawab of Awadh in and around Lucknow
>number nearly a thousand.
>Lord Krishna of the Mahabharata is said to have had eight
>principal queens and countless mistresses. Society at the time of
>Chanakya in the 4th century BCE, had evolved a system of keeping
>the home and family intact, even as males were presented
>opportunities to explore and express their libido! It was
>naturally common for courtesans to be employed in courts to train
>princes in the sacred arts as they matured.
>Males are natural sexual predators -- their hormones make them
>so! Ghenghis Khan has been termed the most successful alpha male
>as 7.5% of the populace of the former Mongolian empire carry his
>genes! It has been estimated that he has some 17 million
>descendants which including the British royal family! He would
>let his generals keep all the loot while the young and beautiful
>were brought to serve him both willingly and otherwise! Was it
>not Cassa Nova in medieval Italy who logged over 1600 partners
>and finally died of the clap! Recent reports reveal that V. Y.
>Lenin, the founder of communist USSR, too died of syphilis.
>Pertinently in the very cultures of its origin, monogamy has been
>debunked in practice. Where a hallowed institution such as the
>church has failed miserably to prevent multiple relationships in
>the west, the extent to which Femina will succeed in doing so in
>India, is highly questionable! It is important to bear in mind at
>this juncture, a highly pragmatic statement of a minister of
>Bangladesh who stated not quite ten years ago that there are two
>basic driving forces in humans -- stomach and sex!
>In its modern form in the west, monogamy has evolved into what
>can best be termed as 'serialised monogamy'. In other words,
>couples divorce and get married and remarried frequently. This
>creates difficulties particularly for their children who lose
>their moorings and sense of belonging. It then becomes a vicious
>cycle -- children of divorced parents themselves treat divorce as
>the norm as they grow up.
>Divorces are certainly very messy affairs as is known to any who
>has been through one. Rarely is either of the partners able to
>reconcile him or herself to this separation which takes a
>terrific mental toll on both. Even after a divorce the reference
>point of the marriage and spouse remains to haunt as it were,
>both the separated partners often leading to the creation of
>insurmountable problems. It would be far better to work towards a
>reconciliation of two extremes to a situation which is
>accommodating and practical rather than the imposition of left
>brain speculations concerning monogamy, serialised or otherwise
>on the hapless male or the seductrous.
>Europe has now evolved live in situations with children sans the
>burden of marriage, leaving each companion the option to remain,
>walk away or have other partners. In China it is common for those
>who are prosperous to have their families as also their
>mistresses living separately. I am told that in the staunchly
>Catholic country of the Philippines, the attitude to sex is
>rather casual, one which would certainly raise eyebrows
>elsewhere. Closer home, this has emerged as an acceptable
>solution to the requirements of men in Gujarat. The fact is that
>multiplicity of partners is a fact of life anywhere and
>everywhere, even though many would not agree with it or apply it
>to their personal lives.
>It is true that women seek stability and single partners, as
>studies carried out particularly in the west, have shown. The
>very psychotherapy you are promoting is a western discipline
>which is being adapted to eastern contexts. However, it does need
>to be emphasised that just as one's physician is no god, neither
>is one's psychotherapist. Even though s/he may have the best of
>training and intentions, the psychotherapist remains a human
>being with all the strengths and weaknesses common to us all.
>When I had consulted one many years ago I had been left wondering
>as to how he could help me when he was as human as I was and
>perhaps equally confused. I was then advised by my homeopathic
>doctor not to go in for shock therapy which is what was being
>advised for me.
>This is certainly not to suggest that they do not have an
>important role to play in that they are certainly able to help
>many people. They do charge money for their services and it is
>yet again the average person who seeks their supposedly expert
>advice who must pay for the services sought for. In this way,
>Femina is actually promoting the interests of and lobbying for
>psychotherapists at the expense of the ordinary person!
>What Femina will succeed in doing by taking such a purportedly
>high moral ground, is merely to create and perpetrate further
>suffering, particularly for men who will not know where to turn
>for renewal. They will increasingly become vegetables under the
>dominance of their spouses of decades having lost the inspiration
>for growth and evolution to the sterile concept of monogamy.
>There will be an increase in neurotic behaviour patterns amongst
>men who will then rush to their pet shrink for treatment,
>spending lakhs of rupees in the process. The extent to which a
>person may benefit from such therapies remains highly
>questionable in any case.
>After all can any therapy be more efficacious than the
>rejuvenation possible through direct interactions with young
>ladies?
>Pertinently psychotherapy is available, as also marriage
>counseling, only in the metros and a few other state capitals.
>Hence they are unavailable to almost the entire population of
>India! Perhaps you will realise the ridiculousness of your
>suggestion. Can one expect people to disrupt their lives to spend
>extended periods of time in metros for the sake of psychotherapy
>just because the new god Femina advocates it!
>And even then what is the guarantee of the quality of life
>improving subsequently! What is of paramount importance that one
>takes personal responsibility for oneself and one's own actions!
>It is important that one consciously applies oneself to
>personality growth and evolution for a balanced life! Most seem
>to be content to rely on their own limited projections of God or
>analysis of destiny to provide them with what is essentially an
>unstable and floating anchor for their existence. The situation
>would get even more complicated should a person treat his/her
>psychotherapist as the new found god! The law of Karma is
>inexorable even though we might seek to negate or overlook it in
>our daily lives! Whatever one does, will certainly have its
>repercussions, good or bad according to what one has done!
>And if it is held that Femina is meant for the modern
>metrosexual, then why market the magazine throughout the country
>where the values and principles propounded have little or no
>meaning or practicality?
>Honestly stated, men are in need of constant renewal and
>rejuvenation. This is true of women as well but their
>requirements are different and I cannot speak for them. Whether
>this is possible with a wife of say 20 years is a moot point.
>However, it is certainly possible with an yet unknown lady in her
>late teens of the 20s. A young lady would not be carrying the
>mental impressions of having lived for many years. She would be
>vivacious and full of inspiration concerning the future. She
>would also bring a freshness of background and vision into the
>relationship which would certainly urge men to feel and act
>younger. It is exactly this which has been immortalised in
>Vladimir Nabokov's work Lolita.
>The physical changes which occur in men and women as they age are
>also different. Women tend to increasingly lose their libido as
>they reach menopause. Moreover they lose their natural elasticity
>and lubrication. Men too go through what is now being termed as
>male menopause from their late forties onwards. This actually
>results in an increase in their libido and increased attraction
>towards ladies. Clearly as a man becomes more and more aware of
>his mortality, he becomes the more desirous of leaving behind his
>progeny for posterity be it from other ladies! Perhaps this is
>why an Indian adage states that a man of sixty is like a young
>ram!
>Two of my own class friends provide excellent illustrations of
>this. At 56, the one living in Australia was living with a young
>lady the age of his children from his first marriage. When we
>last met at a reunion in Kolkata he was writing books and giving
>talks in Australia on social interactions and has his own
>dedicated following there. Basically he was enjoying living!
>Amazingly the life enjoyment index in India is pretty low!
>Another settled in Gurgaon contents himself with pegs of tequila
>and being supercilious in his e-mail dispatches. He is married
>thirty years to his school sweetheart and continues as such,
>having seemingly sunk into an existential meaninglessness as
>their children are all grown up and settled away from them.
>Yet a third fondly recollects his infrequent visits to the
>Philippines where his wife's cousins would cozy up to him as a
>matter of course.
>On the other hand there are many who prosper in a monogamous
>situation and would never ever even dream of intimacy with
>another. Nurture of one's children provides a strong cohesiveness
>for a marriage to continue. My own father and mother in law spent
>most of their adult life raising seven daughters. The youngest
>was married last fall. They are now in their seventies. They have
>been unusually fortunate in that one of the daughters invariably
>continues to live with them taking care of them.
>The thesis of monogamy actually misses out on the crux of human
>relationships. The personality matrices of two people has limited
>intersections leaving the unstimulated elements and aspects
>crying out for fulfillment. Every individual needs to grow
>personally and this can only be possible in a multiple companion
>relationship! In other words, each relationship has its own
>possibilities and limitations. Once the saturation point is
>reached in any relationship, the quest automatically shifts to
>another for fulfillment! Here it is of the utmost importance that
>one does not fall into the trap of comparing one partner with
>another.
>Every person is unique and brings one's own uniqueness into a
>relationship which another cannot do!
>No psychotherapist can deny this, however staunch a supporter
>s/he might be of monogamy. This is stated succinctly in the
>Gilbert & Sullivan operetta Trial by Jury where the highly
>precocious hero sings: 'You cannot eat breakfast all day, Nor is
>it the act of a sinner, When breakfast is taken away to turn his
>attention to dinner .... Nor is it the act of a glutton, ... For
>when he gets tired of beef, Turns his attention to mutton.' He
>goes on to sing, 'But this I am willing to say, That if it
>appease her sorrow, I'll marry this lady today, And this other
>tomorrow!'
>The modern person in India certainly looks to Femina for
>leadership. It is therefore of the utmost importance that the
>magazine does not adopt a supposedly moral high ground which will
>merely further the economic interests of a particular group of
>professionals. Neither is it appropriate for you to enunciate a
>lifestyle which can never be accessed by any except a miniscule
>3-5% of the populace.
>If it is happiness that which Femina wishes to promote, then it
>would be far better to throw open the concept of monogamy vs
>polygamy to an open forum. There the results of research carried
>out again primarily in the west on such issues in all its
>variations, could gradually be brought into focus. People could
>then be provided a proper framework for understanding and
>possible functionality. Having stated this, it must be remembered
>that relationships are rarely based on reason but the x-factor of
>emotionality. And it is here that the Indian woman excels!
>The experience of eastern traditions clearly nurtures multiple
>relationships while keeping marriages and families intact! Even
>Manusmriti with all its peculiarities and lacunae, refers to the
>nine types of children a person may have. The Hindu Marriage Act
>and Hindu Law advocating monogamy date back merely to 1955 & 1956
>or a mere fifty years. In contrast human civilisation dates back
>to seven thousand years at least. These two acts were clearly
>influenced by Christian concepts of humanism and liberalism!
>Neither of these is indigenous to our country. India has evolved
>in its own distinctive way in a manner through history which
>bears no resemblance to the processes through which modern Europe
>has evolved, from which derives monogamy!
>This is certainly the reason that democracy, law and order,
>social justice and so on, have been reinterpreted in the Indian
>context in their own unique and pernicious manner bearing little
>or no resemblance to their counterparts in the western
>hemisphere! Pertinently in India criminals are being 'elected' to
>the Parliament and State Legislatures and also being appointed as
>ministers. Such an event is totally inconceivable in the north!
>Until the promulgation of these two acts, it was the tradition
>and culture of each community which governed marital, conjugal
>and post marital relationships. Even now, both the Hindu Marriage
>Act & Hindu Law make allowances for the customs and traditions of
>communities but in a limited way. Currently in spite of it, Hindu
>men do get married and maintain more than one spouse living under
>the same roof in harmony with their children, sometimes
>elsewhere. In fact three immediate neighbours of this writer have
>two spouses each.
>What is fascinating is that bigamy or polygamy becomes an offence
>under Hindu Law only when one of the wives files a complaint in
>court. In the absence of any protest, the law has no right to
>interfere in any such situation which is therefore condoned.
>It is also not uncommon for couples who have no children, to opt
>for an addition in the family for its furtherance. My own father
>was married to two ladies and for me it was wonderful growing up
>with three parents. My elder mother had actually persuaded my
>father to get married again for the sake of progeny otherwise I
>would never have been born. And amazingly my elder mother was
>more of a mother to me in many ways than my birth mother who
>later turned my most bitter enemy.
>In the west infertility has given rise to the phenomenon of
>surrogate mothers which has given rise to a new discussion of
>ethics and its own problems deriving from mother and child
>bonding! In India too one hears reports of incidents of a woman
>in need of finances becoming a gestational mother for an
>infertile couple. Norms have yet to be laid down in this context
>in India.
>Currently due to the efforts of various NGOs, particularly Mother
>Teresa's Missionaries of Charity, adoption is becoming an
>accepted alternative in Hindu society. The classic example of
>adoption is of course Lord Krishna who was raised by foster
>parents Nanda & Yashoda. His natural parents were Basudeva &
>Devaki. One is mesmerised to see middle aged white couples from
>abroad adopting brown children from such homes and taking them
>back to their countries! For some mysterious reason their doctors
>maintain that a first child born to a lady in her thirties is
>risky both for the prospective mother and child. In doing so
>doctors in the west are actually providing the greatest
>disservice to their own peoples as they are ensuring the
>shrinkage of their native gene pools and the induction of those
> from abroad. This writer always wonders as to how such children
>deal with the issue of ethnicity as they grow up, living in a
>white society speaking and behaving like them! Surely the host
> communities feel the strain of such foreign inductions!
>Currently another problem has come into focus with nuclear
>families. Parents devote the best years of their life to the
>nurture of their children. Once grown up, they leave their nest
>and move away, many to far flung regions of the world. Ageing
>parents are left behind to take care of themselves. This
>suggestion is taken from our own experience at home where my
>birth mother, had cared for her co-spouse, my elder mother,
>sixteen years her elder, during the last year of her life when
>she had become an invalid and later became a living vegetable
>until her demise Dec 98. The suggestion is that a co-spouse could
>certainly fill in the vacuum left behind by the departure of
>adult children and take care of ageing couples!
>In spite of strictures against child marriage, communities
>continue to challenge local administrations who are constrained
>then to acquiesce. Similarly the barbaric process of sati
>continues to be glorified and practised in pockets in India on
>the odd occasion in the name of relidious tradition. Female
>foeticide and infanticide is yet another scourge which needs to
>be seriously addressed. Treatment of widows too is a glaring
>example of how tradition may be used or misused to perpetrate
>human suffering. This is evident from reports dealing with the
>hapless many who have chosen to make Varanasi their homes, having
>been shunned by their in laws all in the name of religion. These
>are issues which Femina can highlight meaningfully compelling a
>national debate.
>I recall my father, an incredible scholar, would on occasion,
>refer to a couple of arcane social principles. One of them was
>'an aryan lady has the right to chose who will father her child.'
>The queens of Dasharatha and Kunti, queen of Pandu are
>outstanding examples of such acts of volition. The other was 'the
>womb of an aryan lady must never remain barren!' This was a
>practice prevalent in India in the past where people would
>cohabit to further a particular end.
>Similarly the Holy Quran permits a person to marry upto four
>times with the rider that he treat each of his wives with equal
>love and affection. There also exists a provision for short term
>marriages termed muttah nikah.
>The Sikh Gurus have enjoined upon their followers to remain
>faithful to their one wife! Even so the famous Maharaja Ranjit
>Singh of two centuries ago had a large harem of queens and
>lovers!
>Currently in India one finds the emergence of the new maharajas
>-- politicians and bureaucrats who consider themselves at liberty
>to indulge in themselves. It is common for them to suitably
>reward their companions for the favours received. Some girls
>would consider it a privilege to thus serve their elders; others
>might do it out of financial necessity! The fact remains however,
>that multiplicity of relationships remains rampant.
>In ancient Egypt too, as researched by National Geographic, there
>is an account of the court of the Pharaoh Amenhotep and Queen
>Nefretiti circa 1326 BC, how daughters of a local vassal king
>Tashoreth [Dasharath?] were sent there as a matter of course to
>serve as mistresses! He was assassinated by his eldest son,
>Ramses [Ram?], who then ascended the throne. Such multiplicity
>also served the important role of cementing relations between
>kings and kingdoms!
>It does need to be remembered however that religious texts of any
>tradition are in themselves a body apart and it is not necessary
>to find a person who claims to be of a particular faith to be
>actually following its purported teachings. Invariably they tend
>to be qualified by the host culture in which a particular
>religion finds its expression. In fact it is now becoming
>apparent that the laity of any particular religion for the most
>part, knows little about the faith it openly professes, people
>invariably remaining content with the label and external
>observances, rather than the content. The latter remains in the
>realm of the religious clergy who are empowered by the laity to
>exercise dominance on them in matters religious.
>Polyandry too deserves mention although I am the least qualified
>to discuss this topic. However it has been noticed in India that
>in the event a lady is married to two brothers or more, it
>actually perpetuates congeniality within the family and the
>conservation of resources. The example of the Five Pandavas comes
>immediately to mind where in spite of their common queen
>Draupadi, each of them did marry at least one other or cohabit
>with another for the fulfillment of a particular purpose. How
>often has it been seen that brothers move apart because of the
>conflicting interests of their wives? Sindhis have an interesting
>take on this in that in a family with two brothers or more, the
>attempt is to find brides who are sisters or perhaps immediate
>cousins in an attempt to promote post marital conviviality.
>Now another concept, that of soul mate which has become passe.
>This refers to a far deeper, profound and meaningful relationship
>beyond monogamy, polygamy and so on! For example Shantanu Rishi,
>it is said, cohabited with a fisherman's daughter Matsyagandha as
>a result of which her body odour was transformed into the sweet
>smell of a lotus and Shakuntala was born. Similarly there exist
>recent reports of ailing spiritual Masters and their in the
>Himalayan Buddhist traditions, of having been healed through
>intimacy with sulakshana ladies. Some terms used traditionally to
>refer to the interplay of masculine and feminine energies are
>yab-yum, shiva-shakti, yin-yang!
>Multiple relationships prior to marriage, while being married or
>divorced and elsewhere, have now become a fact of life
>particularly in the larger cities which cannot but be
>acknowledged. Thanks to the ubiquitous tv, youngsters find
>themselves titillated in a variety of ways leading to premarital
>relationships even in villages. Gynecologists in small towns
>flourish from terminating such pregnancies. In the west this has
>emerged as the norm with the emancipation and empowerment of
>women. The Catholic Church vehemently opposes it and a debate
>between pro-life supporters and those of the woman's choice,
>continues unabated. The process of growing up necessary entails
>the exploring of one's bodies as also those of others, and
>sensuality and sexuality whether at school, college or
>university. This gradually evolves into the search for a life
>partner the Mr. or Ms Right.
>Sex in the work place too is a reality. Whereas there are many
>who might baulk at such relationships, it is common for the
>chemistry of two married people to click at work resulting in
>affairs. The Sunday July 4, 04 edition of Hindustan Times, Patna
>carried an analysis of how ambitious young ladies use the couch
>to further their careers. The film and fashion industries in
>India have long been known for this road map to success. Clearly
>all stops are now being removed. Yet another article in the
>Sunday section of HT July 11, 04 refers to a growing trend
>amongst young ladies to remain independent exploring and enjoying
>life to the full prior to settling down to a married life later
>on in life at around thirty.
>Ladies from respectable families and with plenty of self respect,
>are also making themselves available on call in the larger
>cities. Thus they are able to earn money for their services
>either out of financial necessity, just for the extra pocket
>money or even simply for the fun or experience of it. Reportedly
>many in the metros have made it their livelihood spending their
>weekends with their rich and committed clients. The remainder of
>the week they are free to devote as they will, leading lavish
>life styles!
>The recently released film Julie is a highly sensitive exposition
>on the life of a call girl. It highlights the vulnerability of
>women in Indian society and the manner in which they may be used
>and abused by men, be it at the local level or at that of govt.
>ministers. The script is extremely pertinent. Julie, during her
>tv interview, says that she has actually been buying the
>masculinity of men through her profession while making them pay
>for this purchase. The concluding monologue by the industrial
>baron who justifies his love for Julie and accepts her as his
>wife wraps up the film beautifully conveying a powerful social
>and ethical message. Poignantly he says that these call girls
>perform an incomparable function in society as it is due to their
>sacrifice that the other ladies in society live secure.
>With the disintegration of the USSR, young ladies from the CIS
>countries, where the economic situation is difficult, regularly
>visit the Middle East, India and elsewhere. Offering their
>services and expertise in such matters, they are able to make
>considerably large sums of money within a few months, which they
>then utilise to establish themselves back home. Any male will
>certainly feel the lure to engage with active new partners from
>abroad who would titillate them in novel ways and perhaps
>initiate them into the finer skills not available indigenously.
>Newspapers in India regularly carry reports of such ladies who
>have fallen in the police net perhaps because they were unable to
>satisfy their captors of their needs.
>A survey published in Newsweek recently shows that therapists
>have estimated that almost 40% of the women they counsel have had
>extramarital affairs' and 'that married women often indulge in
>extramarital affairs at the workplace and are meeting potential
>partners on the Internet.' In the UK a phenomenon called Blue
>Toothing has become extremely popular in which casual rendezvous
>are made using mobile phones.
>All said and done, one does hear the refrain from the modern
>Indian that a woman can share everything with another, except her
>husband! For the rich and the poor as also those in between --
>this is an issue relevant to every single person. Paradoxically
>it is this sharing which has kept civilisations intact and
>running smoothly over thousands of years. This purported rigidity
>of the fairer sex, if somewhat relaxed, as has been historically
>the case in India and elsewhere, could certainly enhance
>congeniality in the life of their spouses and create harmony at
>home and in the family with the attributes that nature has
>endowed the two sexes! Even today this liberal perspective
>certainly has its takers in India as also in modern societies
>abroad!
>One is certainly left wondering as to the successful couples and
>people interviewed each week by Simi Garewal as shown in Star
>World, actively participate in extra marital relationships!
>No such discussion can ever be complete sans the inclusion of a
>movement referred to 'broad minded' prevalent the more so in
>metros and some state capitals. This refers to consensuous
>cohabitation between couples. Their methods are varied and can
>range from parties where interchanges are accepted as the norm,
>group participation encouraged, or to arrangements made by mail.
>One such method is to put all the car keys of the party goers in
>a small container and have each lady pick one -- the person who
>is to spend the night with her!
>Clearly the issues involved are extremely varied and complex!
>There are no clear cut answers to these essentially human
>situations! One is certainly left wondering as to whether Femina
>is in touch with reality or living in its own ivory tower!
>Which 'maa kaa laal' can resist the charms of fecund female
>hormones? This really is the bottom line!
>Postscript:
>'Blessed is the man who simultaneously enjoys the love of many
>women!'
>

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